Dissapointed did notify the management. The four year old moved in unexpectedly, it was either with me or have him live in a van; seriously, that is what his mother told him what would happen if he didn't behave. The four year old's mother is not stable and is under the influence of drugs, he shares the same mom as the other childern. Within a week, maybe even a few days, after the child moved in, I told the management. The third child only visited, and was gone by the evenings...usually; he is also the twin to the other 12 year old that lives with me. They go to school together, and ride the bus together.
I am a single woman, I am working two jobs, and I am the caregiver to two childern who were basically abandoned by their mother. When I needed the help and support from my community I was forced out. The four year old did cry a lot, but when a child spends his lifetime being neglected...what can you expect? He was loud...I'm getting his hearing checked, because I swear he can't hear.
I asked to have my screen door fixed so I can let him play outside, and not have to worry about my cats getting out, and it was still broken by the time I was gone.
I am a quality person, I have two stable jobs, maybe because I have kids I'm not a quality person. The management even mentioned to me to get rid of the four year because he maybe to much for me. So what, I'm supposed to give my kids a way because my neighbors can't handle them. Rent a house if you want peace and quiet. This is an apartment complex!! I work hard, I had my sister over allot to help with the four year old, in the afternoon/early evening, after daycare, she was the one with the other child. My niece could not understood why it was okay for other kids to ride bikes or skate boards, but when she and her brother did it I got complaints. I got in trouble if they are to loud inside, I send them outside, and I get in trouble for that. I stepped in to help family, and this is the thinks I get. I tried. I'm so glad to be gone.
Whatever. I now live in a place that doesn't have paper thin walls, and I can hopefully work on his behavor a little bit better. I swear the second I moved out my kids, and I began to breath easier. My kids are good kids(by the way, a good 12 year old is going to behave differently then a good 4 year old), they play, they live and they grow...now they can do it without being shushed 24/7.
I've told people that are close to me and my family, and they think I should talk to a lawyer. I really don't think I have a full-on grounds for a lawsuit, but I think I may check into it. I fell like I was punished for something the management promised, and now I am behind on all my bills because I had to come up with rent and deposits with the check I normally pay my bills with. Plus I wasn't the only one walking up and down the hallway. I think I got booted out so they can upgrade the apartment, then raise the rent. They just used my kids as an excuse to get me out.
I spoke to another sister of mine; I told her how stressed out I was, all the time. I was nervous everytime the kids opened or shut the door, scared everytime they raised their voices while they played, or when they wrestled around, as most siblings do. Everytime I had to raise my voice to speak to the four year old, because he seemed to have a hard time hearing (I'm not making that up, I'm taking him to see a specialist in about a week or two). I lived scared and nervous, and when I was given the notice to move, when I was done crying, on some level I felt relief, I new there was an end in sight. And you know what my sister said...that she felt the same way when she filed for divorce from her verbally abusive husband. Then I realized something, I was living like an abused woman. That may seem a little extreme, but that is what it felt like. And now, I have to learn to live without fear again.
This is it. I am done with this place. I'll no longer respond to any commits against me or my kids. They be my niece and nephew, but I love them like they're mine, I'd adopt them if I could.
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